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How To Interact With A Child Who Has Autism: Basic Dos And Don’ts

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Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex developmental condition that affects how people communicate and interact with the world around them. People with ASD may have difficulty with social skills, communication, and behavior. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to interacting with a child who has ASD, there are some basic dos and don’ts that can help you build positive relationships with these children.


1. Be patient and understanding.

It’s important to remember that children with ASD may process information differently than other children. They may need more time to understand what you’re saying or what you want them to do. It’s also important to be patient with their behavior. Children with ASD may exhibit behaviors that seem unusual or challenging, but these behaviors are often a way for them to cope with their environment.

2. Get to know the child.

Take the time to get to know the child as an individual. Learn about their interests, their strengths, and their challenges. This will help you tailor your interactions to their specific needs.

3. Use clear and concise language.

When talking to a child with ASD, use clear and concise language. Avoid using jargon or complex sentences. It’s also helpful to use visual aids, such as pictures or gestures, to help the child understand what you’re saying.

4. Be respectful of the child’s personal space.

Some children with ASD may be sensitive to touch or noise. It’s important to be respectful of their personal space and avoid invading it without their permission.

5. Give the child choices.

Giving the child choices can help them feel more in control and less overwhelmed. When possible, offer them a choice of activities, foods, or toys.

6. Be consistent.

It’s important to be consistent in your interactions with the child. This means setting clear expectations, following through on consequences, and providing positive reinforcement.

7. Be positive and encouraging.

Praising the child for their accomplishments, even small ones, can help boost their self-esteem and motivation.

8. Find common ground.

Try to find common ground with the child, such as a shared interest or activity. This can help build a rapport and make it easier to interact with them.

9. Ask for help.

If you’re not sure how to interact with a child with ASD, don’t be afraid to ask for help from their parents, teachers, or other professionals. They can provide you with specific tips and strategies for interacting with the child.


1. Don’t force the child to interact with you.

If the child doesn’t want to interact with you, don’t force them. This will only make them feel uncomfortable and stressed.

2. Don’t make assumptions about the child’s abilities.

Just because a child has ASD doesn’t mean they’re not capable of learning or interacting with others. Don’t make assumptions about their abilities based on their diagnosis. Every child’s journey and abilities are different and it is important to meet them where they are to support their progress and efforts.

3. Don’t compare the child to other children.

Every child with ASD is different. It’s important to avoid comparing them to other children, as this can only make them feel inadequate.

4. Don’t take it personally if the child doesn’t respond to you.

Children with ASD may have difficulty communicating or interacting with others. Don’t take it personally if the child doesn’t respond to you in the way you expect.

5. Don’t give up.

Building relationships with children with ASD takes time and patience. Don’t give up if you don’t see results immediately. Just keep at it, and eventually, you’ll build a positive relationship with the child.

Interacting with a child who has ASD can be challenging, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. By following the dos and don’ts listed above, you can build positive relationships with these children and help them reach their full potential. At Solstice Behavioral Health & Consulting, our team of ABA Therapy experts helps families learn and grow together. Whether you are new to the autism journey or an experienced hand, learning new and practiced methods of communication and relationship building can be extremely helpful and rewarding for your child and family. If you are looking for help, training, or education to support a child with autism in your life, call (203) 900-4720 or visit our Shelton, CT facilities.

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